The unity candle is not only used to symbolize the newly joined couple but also the two families. At the beginning of the ceremony, the bride's parents light a candle on their side of the altar and the groom's parents light one on their side. After the couple exchanges their vows, the bride and groom will then each carry their family's candle to the center where they both light the unity candle that has been placed there.
You can also give each guest a candle at the beginning of the ceremony. The couple will walk down the aisle and stop at each row to light the candle of the nearest person. That person will then light the candle of the next person, until the entire congregation has a lighted candle. Of course you will have to check with your officiant to make sure that the church will allow you to do this.
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Honoring a Deceased Loved One
We have received several emails from brides and grooms asking us how they can honor their deceased loved one on their wedding day. Many etiquette experts say that it is not a good idea to mix the joy of a wedding with the grief of a death. Therefore, you should not include their names on the wedding invitation. However, there are other ways you can honor them in a discreet and sensitive way. Here are some suggestions: